In this free live session, we’ll explore what happens when the Intimacy Skills™ look right on the surface — but underneath, we’re still trying to make him respond, step up or finally get the message.

You may say “I can’t,” but secretly hope it delivers a consequence. Stop doing something in the name of relinquishing control, then wait to see whether he notices. Or hold a desire inside and use what happens next as evidence of how much he cares.

These aren’t always obvious attempts to control. Often, they’re quiet strategies we use when we want to protect ourselves from disappointment, rejection or the vulnerability of saying what we really want.

We’ll look at how to tell the difference between an “I can’t” that genuinely honours you and one designed to change his behaviour; between relinquishing inappropriate control and silently testing whether he’ll step up; and between releasing a desire and never expressing it at all.

Then we’ll open it up for live Q&A and coaching, so you can bring your own relationship questions and explore where a skill may have quietly become a test, punishment or strategy.

This isn’t about practising the skills perfectly. It’s about becoming more honest about the energy underneath them — and learning to stand for yourself without making his response the measure of whether you did it right.

By the end of the session, you’ll have a clearer sense of where hidden expectations may be creeping in, what belongs on your paper and how to practise the skills with greater clarity, self-honouring and trust.