meet kayla greenville
-Certified Laura Doyle Relationship Coach
-Certificate in Applied Neuroscience
-Certificate in Life Coaching
-Certificate in Fitness
-Bachelor in Sports Management and a career in the corporate sport environment
I know what it’s like to:
feel disconnected from my partner
feel guilty prioritising my own self care
feel underappreciated and like the only adult
feel unattractive and invisible to my partner
feel like you and your partner are on different paths
want to do something but don’t want to drag him to counselling
I help women build vibrant, fulfilling, and loving relationships using The 6 Intimacy Skills™. My approach is intuitive, grounded and practical.
Join us when you’re ready
client love
“Before starting our coaching sessions I was miserable, scared and angry. I thought our relationship was finished. The skills helped me create a wonderful turnaround of events! I now understand my power! I am now calm, happy and excited for the future”
my relationship story
A good weekend turned bad when it came to clean-up time. While I tidied frantically, Andrew lagged behind seemingly doing nothing. In frustration, I sent him and our baby to the beach so I could do it myself. His question 'where are the towels?' tipped me over the edge. There was a bitter exchange, ending in a cutting insult. In my mind, a line was crossed and the argument marked a turning point in our relationship. I was torn between leaving for my happiness and staying for our one-year-old son.
Shortly after, Andrew's mother passed away in Ireland. We flew there immediately and I knew that healing the relationship had been bumped to the bottom of the priority list - as had my opportunity to leave.
The following eight months were overwhelmingly difficult. We were drowning in grief, probate and parenting while in an isolating lockdown. This took a huge toll on our relationship.
We returned to New Zealand, expecting our second child and having to restart life. We had very little energy and our relationship had lost its spark. At my lowest, I pondered a daunting question, how could I provide for my kids and be a present mum if I was doing it on my own?
I tried to maintain a positive front but struggled with negative feelings and found myself comparing my relationship to others. I couldn't believe the energy between us had got so bad. We’d be having a good day but then all of a sudden, one comment or action would turn everything around and I’d be back to feeling sad and alone. I also felt ashamed to admit that my relationship wasn’t what I wanted it to be, I just didn’t know what to do.
A friend recommended I read "The Empowered Wife" by Laura Doyle. Skeptical at first, I gave it a try. I applied the skills as Laura recommends, not needing or expecting anything from my partner. Seeing such positive and immediate changes in my relationship surprised me. Seeking deeper transformation, I enrolled with a coach. I was filled with hope one day when I realized I hadn’t thought about an exit strategy since my first session.
I started to see how much I was relying on this man to make me happy - and I started doing that myself.
I started to reflect on my controlling behavior and realized its impact - and I started letting go.
I noticed how critical I was of him always looking for what was wrong - and I started to look for what was right.
Suddenly, I was happier, more relaxed and more grateful.
One day I overheard Andrew sharing how my changes had him feeling more confident in all areas of his life, and that he felt more willing to do the things I wanted! This highlighted how influential my choices were. I felt equally as guilty as I did full of hope.
Our relationship started to improve so much I couldn’t even believe it. Andrew became the loving, supportive partner and father I desired. I was happier and more in love than ever.
This shift led me to train under Laura Doyle for a year. Not only was it life-altering for my relationship(s). It deepened my understanding of relationship dynamics, and shaped my new coaching approach.
I've learnt that it’s us, the women, who have the power to transform our relationships; it’s us who set the tone in the home! These skills are an empowering toolkit to do just that. It’s peaceful and playful here now. When there are arguments or tension, I know how to restore intimacy - quickly! No more “sleeping on it”. I can honestly say that when I stay committed to these skills, things are AMAZING.
UPDATE! I also have to add here that I’m sitting here, editing this website, newly engaged! Two years after hitting rock bottom, Andrew proposed on a mountain top. It is incredible to me that as I type out the content of this new website, I am looking down at a beautiful new ring. Wow.
The last two years have been an unbelievable journey and I feel so blessed that I am able use it to help other women change the course of their relationship, just like I did.
Now, instead of asking - “is this as good as it’s going to get?”, I’m asking - "how does it get any better than this?"
Newly engaged and on top of the world (well, the highest mountain in Germany anyway).
I support committed women all over the world who are looking for solutions to fix their relationships and get happy again.
If my story resonates and you, too, are feeling called to make a shift, I invite you to get in touch.
Still want to know more?
Here are a few fun facts about me:
I grew up on a farm in rural New Zealand and love the simple things.
I have lived in Sydney, Dublin, Auckland and a small beach town called Whangamata - but we just moved to Munich!
I am down to earth, straight to the point and I hate wearing shoes.
I have two boys under 5 who are the reason my relationship is what it is today.
I don’t believe in regrets(!) and I have removed that word from my personal vocabulary.
I believe it takes more strength to be feminine than it does to be masculine - and that a women in her feminine can change the world.
client love
“Kayla is a ray of sunshine that finds you in your time of darkness and helps you realize that you also have that light in yourself. Kayla helped me through my divorce and was always kind and empathetic but at the same time whipped me into shape and woke me up. I looked forward to our meeting and felt lighter after every session.”
Official Bio
Kayla Greenville advocates for the transformative influence women have within their relationships. Her practical and intuitive approach to coaching has been featured in media such as Good and Nadia magazines. It promises to help women transform their relationships without their man's conscious effort.
Kayla is passionate about the holistic benefits of healthy, vibrant, and loving relationships. She believes they are synonymous with health, happiness, and resilience in our children. She believes they are essential to the wellbeing of wider communities.
Kayla's membership program and private coaching blend her expertise, personal journey, and intuition. She supports women in unlocking their positive influence using Laura Doyle’s The 6 Intimacy Skills™. Her coaching style is practical, relatable, and filled with laughter.
Outside of work, Kayla can be found chasing the sun, or her two young boys, and never far from her journal. You can find out more about her work at kaylagreenville.com
client love:
“When I said yes to myself with coaching with Coach Kayla I was surprised at how comfortable I felt right away with her easy, confident, kind manner and her deep understanding of the skills. I looked forward to our sessions knowing that she would be able to see my blind spots and point to a skill I could use to help me through whatever challenge I was having. Her stories of success using the skills are so relatable and helped me to have confidence & hope that I could do the same.”
